Even though weddings are happy events that celebrate love and unity, they can also be stressful for the bride, groom, and their families. In a recent story, a woman used the internet to talk about how she felt about her brother’s upcoming wedding without children. He made her feel confused, hurt, and left out when he decided not to let her son attend the event.

The mom chose to write about her experience on the web:

The wedding of my brother was recently open to my husband, me, our 21-year-old daughter, and our 18-year-old son. No kids are allowed at the wedding, so everyone but our 16-year-old son. Because I had been to a wedding without kids before that was 13 or 16 years old, I called my brother to make sure that my son wasn’t invited. My son wouldn’t act up or need as much supervision as a younger child would.

My brother said he was sorry and that he couldn’t break his rule because some of his friends have much younger children and he didn’t want it to look like he was favoring my 16-year-old by letting her come. That was fine with me; I understand weddings without children; I myself had one without children before I had children.

“My sister has two kids under 18 (13 and 15), and my brother has two kids from a previous marriage (16 and 17). I thought none of them would be invited either.” My family is going to fly out for the weekend to go to the wedding in another country. Because he and my brother are close, my 16-year-old is a little sad that he wasn’t invited. I also don’t want to leave him home alone over the weekend.

I came up with a plan for him and his cousins to spend the night before the wedding at the hotel. They could use the pool, order room service, and have a great time. After that, my son wouldn’t feel left out because the next day we could see the city together.

“I told my brother about the plan, and he thought it was great. But when I told my sister, she was shocked and said her kids had been invited, and she didn’t know it wasn’t for kids.” Since it was 13+, she asked my brother, who told her to invite my niece.

So, we both called my brother. He told me that my son is the only one in the immediate family under 18 who hasn’t been invited, but he wouldn’t say why, even though I pushed him.

That’s right, my sister and I are both not going because we are mad at him and she loves my 16-year-old. My mom called us both and said we were acting like kids and letting my brother down.

My brother’s soon-to-be-wife is also mad at us. She says that my brother is upset and that my son was left out “for a good reason,” but she doesn’t say what that reason is. My sister’s husband, who is also my brother-in-law, is also mad and blames me for my sister not going. I feel bad and wish I had just let sleeping dogs lie. But did I get it wrong?”

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