After my wife took a seven-week vacation, I fell completely out of love with her.
People who are getting married don’t think their partner will ever lose love with them. We feel like our feelings for our SO will last forever, and the bond we have with them seems impossible to break. But our hero for today found that he could stop loving his wife very easily, and it wasn’t because she was cheating on him or something else bad. The woman took a break from her kids and went on a trip. When she got back home, her husband didn’t care about her at all.
It all began when the man’s wife took a seven-week trip.
A man named Peter, who is 32 years old, wrote a letter. He told us about his problem and asked our readers to give him honest feedback and help with his family issues.
Peter began his letter by saying, “My wife Helen, 30, and I have been married for 4 years. We’ve been together for 9 years total.” She stays home with her kids. The fact that we have cute twins who are 1.5 years old has been very hard on my wife.
Helen said one day that she wanted to take a few weeks off by herself. She told him that she planned to visit high school and college friends, travel to different states, see different shows, and do a lot of fun things by herself over the break.
Peter got it, and he agreed that his wife needed some time off. “My wife asked if I would be okay with it,” the man wrote. I agreed, but I asked if she could cut it down a couple of weeks because I thought it would be awful to have to deal with our two kids by myself for seven weeks, especially since I had a lot of work to do and it was my duty. At least the fact that I work from home helped me.
Helen had already left, so Peter was alone with the kids.
“Helen and I talked about this issue some more for a couple of days, and in the end I agreed that she did deserve a seven-week break because of what she has been through the past few years,” Peter says next.
It turned out to be hard for the man to take care of two kids. He told her, “That’s why my wife took a vacation.” Taking care of our twins by myself for the first week was very hard. I thought I was going crazy, but I made it through. From the second week on, I asked my older sister to help me out. My sister really saved my life, and I will always be thankful for her. I pretty much broke down in tears when she video called me at the end of the first week. This was her cue that something wasn’t right, and she set things right.
The man had mixed feelings about what was going on. “From the second week on, my sister chose to stay at my house and help me with my kids more,” he said. I had to admit that a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. At least I had more time to work on my most important tasks, and I did finish them on time.
I really didn’t miss Helen at all, to be honest. I felt calm in both my mind and emotions. I enjoyed my time with my siblings and children greatly. I felt lied to because my wife had taken that seven-week trip and left me alone. My wife was making me slowly lose love for her.
Helen got home to find that her husband didn’t care about her at all.
Helaine did call me several times while she was on vacation, and she tried to give me a lot of advice about the kids, Peter says next in his story. However, I thought everything was so wrong, especially after seeing her happy Instagram posts of herself at parties, concerts, and restaurants with her friends. The difference between our lives was very clear.
When the woman finally got home, Peter was acting like he didn’t know her at all. “When Helen got back from her seven-week break, she was super refreshed and recharged, but to be honest, I was tired and didn’t care about her,” the man admitted. It was her attempt to hug and kiss me when she got back, but I told her I wasn’t feeling it. Our daily lives were still the same level of apathy, and she probably saw it but didn’t say anything.
After a while, things got too bad. Peter said, “After two weeks, Helen finally asked me why I was acting this way, and I told her the truth: I didn’t love her anymore.” She said she was very sorry for taking that seven-week vacation and asked what she could do to make things right. I told her no right away. Over the next couple of weeks, we went through some tough steps before I finally decided I wanted a divorce.
Peter had to make a hard choice, but the man insisted on it.
The man wrote, “My wife looked very upset when I even brought up the idea of getting a divorce.” I was shocked by how she reacted since I had already told her I no longer loved her. She did attempt to get us to go to couples’ therapy or marriage counseling. The search for a divorce lawyer had already begun, though, and I really didn’t think there was anything that could save our family.
“I thought about everything for a while, and I’m still sure I want a divorce,” Peter said. It’s pretty clear that I don’t love my wife anymore, and I’m not sure if I ever will. I don’t think any marriage counseling could help at this point.”
At the end of his letter, Peter said, “I want to make one thing clear. It wasn’t about money at all. I do have a job that pays well but is very stressful. I didn’t care how much Helen spent on her trip.
The main problem was that having two young children and working full-time was too much for my mind to handle. I lost it by the end of the first week and even broke down in tears when my sister video called me. Helen could tell how I was feeling, but it never occurred to her that she should cancel her trip and come home to be with me during these trying times.
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