I (29F) got engaged to Mark (34M) this summer. He has a 6-year-old daughter, Ella, from his previous marriage, and I admire his dedication as a father. I planned a cozy Christmas Eve for us, but Mark revealed he’d spend Christmas with Ella and his ex-wife, as they’ve always done. He said it casually, making me feel unimportant.
On Christmas Eve, I overheard him telling his ex, “She won’t know until it’s too late.” When I confronted him, he admitted he’d planned to stay overnight at his ex’s house so they could wake up with Ella. His ex felt “weird” about me being included, so they kept it from me to avoid conflict.
I felt betrayed and left to spend Christmas with my sister. Now Mark says I ruined Christmas for Ella and calls me selfish. Am I wrong for leaving?
