We are celebrating our 40th anniversary with a cozy family gathering. I already invited 12 people and my house is small. So I politely asked my DIL to leave her 3 kids (13, 11, and 10) at home – to only bring my grandson.

The whole night, she was quiet. The next day, there was a massive box at my door. I froze in shock when I saw that it had all of my belongings from my son’s house, where I occasionally stay. There was a note saying, “You’re not welcome to stay at my house anymore.” Shocked, I chose not to react to avoid creating further conflict. Next day, my grandson called, he was crying; “Granny, help me please!”

I rushed there and my blood ran cold as I saw the place in complete chaos. My daughter-in-law turned to me and said she was leaving my son because he didn’t stand up for her kids. She told me that what I did was unacceptable and that she would never forgive me for excluding her children like that. A few days have passed, and they still haven’t reconciled.

Am I to blame here?
Greta