I Want to Take My Son’s DNA Now That I Gave Birth to Him, and Here’s Why
When it comes to parenting, some spouses set up a DNA test for their children, which has caused a lot of trouble in the family. Most of the time, men are the ones who demand a paternity test, but sometimes the mother of the child does it first. This is what happened to our main character today, a woman with three kids who is sure she needs to get her son a DNA test. In a letter, she told us her story.
A 35-year-old woman who asked to remain anonymous told us a story that may make a lot of people think. She began her letter by saying, “Hello, I know that you are a well-known and reliable source where many people feel free to share their thoughts on various topics.” People used to leave comments under a lot of my posts on your page. I would give them advice and talk about what I thought about some of the things people wrote in your stories. Now I need your audience’s opinion because I’m in a situation that I can’t really talk to anyone in my family about.
“I have been happily married to my husband for over 10 years now,” the woman began her story. We have three kids. When my husband and I found out we were pregnant again 5 years ago, we were so happy. We can’t imagine a happy family without children, so we were all looking forward to welcoming our new family member.
The woman had a very hard time during her pregnancy.
The woman goes on to say, “My pregnancy was high-risk, with a very high chance of miscarriage and other problems.” During the whole time I was pregnant, doctors were very worried about my health. “I tried to stay calm, and with a lot of help from my husband, I was able to think only of good things and feel pretty positive.”
The woman then wrote about her baby’s long-awaited birth. “My high-risk pregnancy led to a quite tough delivery process,” she wrote. Because my son’s birth was not going as planned, he was taken away from us for a while before we even saw him. It got really, really strange because I began to have doubts at that point.
The woman talked about how worried she was about her child.
Our main character wrote, “They finally brought our baby boy back to us, and it hurts to say it, but I looked at him and thought, ‘Whose child is this?’” This thought keeps following me around, but I haven’t told anyone about it.
“I felt totally guilty about having that thought, but I just couldn’t let it go,” the woman said. I was pretty sleepy and didn’t have much of a brain, but it still cut through my mind. They put a very fat, very cute, very lovable, and very squishable baby in my arms. But my boy didn’t look at all like my other kids when they were born. The same goes for any of the other babies in our family.
“Our kids were all fair-skinned, skinny, and long,” the woman said. Our boy was very fat, had darker skin, and was very cute, but I had a huge mental block when they gave him to me. After many, many years, he still doesn’t have any family traits.
The woman can’t get rid of the thoughts she has about her son.
The woman said, “My kids don’t look much alike, but there are some things they have in common.” But I can’t think of any ways that my youngest son’s behavior or body type is similar to anyone else in the family.
Not the eyes, lips, smile, hands, feet, personality, or anything else. I know this happens to families a lot, but I’ve always wondered why. And I love him so much. After many years, here we are now, and my son was just told he has a terrible disease.
“It’s something you’d think would show up somewhere else in the family, but no,” the woman said. And now I can’t help but wonder if he’s not mine. Is it okay for me to try to get a DNA test in secret to find out if he is someone else’s child and learn about other possible health problems?
I’m not sure what I’ll do with the information, though. What will happen if I find out that my son is not mine? Should I just look up my family history? Should I tell him? Should I tell my family? Should I go to the hospital?”
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