Recently, a 55-year-old woman wrote a letter online. She was requesting assistance, counsel, and viewpoints regarding her intricate family background. Until the day she revealed her true colors, her DIL was the epitome of love and politeness. The woman is dealing with such an attitude, and she is unsure of how to save her family from a catastrophic event in the eyes of her once-loved daughter-in-law.
At first, the relationship between MIL and DIL was great.
In a letter to us, a 55-year-old woman named Janette told us her story, which is currently the source of her shock and despair. Janette started her letter by introducing her 30-year-old DIL, Ashley, who has been a part of their large and welcoming family for more than two years.
Janette revealed, “I liked Ashley right away.” The reason behind my son Evan’s, 29, intense love for his current spouse was truly understandable to me. Ashley is a lovely young lady who fits right into our family right away. She is well-educated and polite. When Evan began dating Ashley, my husband and I were overjoyed, and we treated her with great courtesy when he first introduced her to us.
Janette highlighted how smooth and healthy their relationship has been from the beginning. “Ashley acted like she sincerely wanted to be my new best friend or for me to be her “second mom,” before their engagement,” the woman wrote. She was always considerate of our needs, brought us pricey gifts, and never failed to remember our holidays and family customs. Her goal was to establish a relationship in which I wouldn’t have to worry about my son’s happiness. I was pretty sure she would be Evan’s perfect wife. I was gravely misinformed.
Things happened so fast that Janette was taken aback.
Janette revealed, “The moment Ashley got a ring, the light went out!” In short order, she changed into an entirely different woman. She began to criticize everything I said or did, as though I were her worst enemy. She asked me to alter my appearance and how I dress to fit her ideal of how I should act and look, and she even had Evan call me to correct me.
Ashley said, via Evan, that I wasn’t dressed appropriately for my age. I always loved bright and sparkly clothes, but I was supposed to wear my clothes two sizes bigger and give up on glitter and rhinestones. Ashley didn’t really like my makeup routine, so I was supposed to change that too.
The woman went on to say that many family members, including her son Evan, were also impacted by Ashley’s behavioral shifts. “Ashley began chatting up people about our family,” Janette wrote. Not just posting random information online, but disclosing every detail about our family and all of our private information on her social media accounts. She even went so far as to reveal extremely personal details about Evan’s adoption, details that not even her closest friends knew about.
For those who knew our family in one way or another, it is now the topic of lively debate. Even though this behavior was completely disgusting, there was nothing we could do about it. Ashley would not hear of it.
After Ashley and Evan tied the knot, Ashley’s actions took on an even more startling quality.
“I could imagine that what was happening was already the worst,” Janette wrote, “but after Ashley and Evan got married, it did get worse.” Ashley abruptly withdrew our invitations from my husband and me from their wedding just before the big day, claiming that she was embarrassed by the attire we had selected. Since we didn’t want to ruin Evan’s wedding day and break his heart, we came to an agreement. We decided to go buy the clothes that Ashley personally approved of right before their wedding. Although this was embarrassing, we had to swallow this bitter pill in order to ensure our son’s happiness.
Things quickly got out of hand after the two got married. Janette revealed, “I’m crying as I write this because I’m going through this again and trying to clear my memory of everything.” Ashley thus demanded that my son change jobs after they were married because she felt that working for a well-known law firm for more than 50 years at a respectable salary wasn’t enough. She thought that Evan should pursue a career in business since it was “more prestigious.”
It is important for me to note that our family has always been proud of Evan’s career. Even more experienced professionals have referred to this young and bright lawyer as “a diamond” for his accomplishments. He is crazy about his work, loves it, and now finds himself having to make all of these changes in his life. We simply lost the ability to tolerate it.
Janette is literally losing her son, which is why she is desperate.
Janette wrote, “Evan received a cancer diagnosis two months ago.” The news came as a shock to the entire family, and we all hurried to find the best specialists to assist him. Fortunately, his condition is not too bad, and he still has a chance to live a normal life and enter remission shortly. Ashley, though, won’t give up.
Janette admitted that shortly after they all learned of Evan’s diagnosis, Ashley had cheated on him. Although Janette witnessed Evan’s wife having an affair with another man in a café, where they were kissing before walking out hand in hand, Evan is not aware of this.
“I want to tell Evan the truth about Ashley, about her infidelity,” the woman wrote in her letter. I’m afraid, but I have pictures of her with her lover, which is solid proof. I’m incredibly afraid that I’ll lose my son, that he’ll blame me for upsetting his happy family, and that he’ll be extremely depressed upon learning that he has cancer. I’m conflicted because I don’t see a painless way out of this unpleasant circumstance.
Evan would continue to be duped if things stay the same, and it would be worse to tell him the truth. I simply don’t know what to do as a mother. Now that I’m at a crossroads, I need guidance from those who may have gone through a similar experience. Do you believe that sitting down and having a conversation with Evan about everything at this time is a wise move? Or should I just remain silent until he recovers?
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