1(68) have one son, Richard, and his 3 kids,
my grandchildren, are my world! Two weeks ago, Richard was planning a family getaway with his wife and kids, and he wanted me to join them. I hesitated at first due to concerns about financial responsibility.
With my medical bills, there just wasn’t enough money for a trip. Then, out of the blue, my son said he wanted to treat me to the trip, covering every single expense. I was thrilled by his generous invitation. So I packed my bags eagerly, looking forward to quality time with my loved ones. On the first day of the vacation, after a long and tiring day of cultural visits with the
grandkids, we were all starving.
So, we booked dinner at a nice restaurant. As I got ready to head out, my son abruptly walked into my room with an unexpected box of takeaway food and, with a surprised look on his face, said, “Why are you all dressed up? Did you seriously think this vacation was going to be free, Mom? You’ll have to babysit the children in the evenings. My wife and I have a whole list of spectacles and concerts booked every single night.”
1 froze upon hearing this. I felt extremely hurt and betrayed. Prioritizing my emotional well-being over familial expectations, I made the difficult decision to leave the vacation early. So, as Richard left the three kids under my care that night, I called the travel agency and changed my return flight. The next morning, I checked out of the hotel and flew back home
without telling anyone. Now, both my son and daughter-in-law are bombarding me with texts and calls, making me feel guilty for what I did. I can’t detect any sense of guilt in their messages, only blame. I still believe that my self-respect and personal boundaries are non-negotiable, but I’m now grappling with feelings of guilt and uncertainty, questioning whether I overreacted or acted in haste. They will be back from their vacation in a week. How should I face this issue when I meet my son and his wife? Your opinion and guidance are very much appreciated. Sincerely,
Marta
